Don't give up!

I love the saying: "There is always a light @ the end of the tunnel".  This is for those who think there isn't any more hope. This is the time to change your direction of thoughts, Be hopeful.
Let me start with those who think their world has come to an end just because their partner called it quit or their partner is cheating. See it as a relationship that was never meant to be, see it as part of building up experience. When you go for a job interview, they are more interested in your experience than your academic background because your past experience is much more valuable in getting the job done in a timely manner. The same goes for relationships that didnt work out, your previous experience would help you make a better choice.
    

It is time to let go off that old relationship that broke your heart, learn to forgive and move on. I know alot of people would say it is easier said than done. The moment you forgive, you feel better and it opens you up for better opportunities. Dont waste your time thinking and dwelling in the past, dont be bitter towards anyone that comes your way, take a giant step in moving on. I am not saying get a relationship ASAP, it would be better for you to take your time (not like decades....lol) have fun, mingle, make yourself happy, go to the movies, hang out with friends, go to lunch with a colleague, plan a road trip with family or friends.....just make yourself happy so you dont get weighed down with the hurts. Everyone loves companionship but it is only sweet when it is with the right person. Don't ever give up because you are closer than you think.
    For those who are having financial difficulties, do not give up. Loads of people go through rough times. Either you lost your job or you are just not able to meet up with your day-to-day expenses, this isnt the time to give up this is the time to be stronger and see the better opportunities that are available. Keep sending out your resume, do not give up even if you don't get a call after sending out hundred resumes. I have had a time in my life when i went for 30 different interviews and still didn't get 1 single offer. Keep searching and when you eventually get an interview makesure you are well prepared for it (Read about interviews, most frequetly asked interview questions, interviews dos and donts etc). Stay positive and you would soon realise that you are closer than you think. For the self-employed, Knowledge is power so keep reading, there are various internet sites and blogs that have alot of ideas on how to boost your business so take advantage of it and put the knowledge you get into use.
    For the people who haven't been blessed with a child yet(Note the word "yet", its never too late to have kids). If you are rich enough to try IVF, go ahead because it has worked for alot of people. You can also adopt, there are so many beautiful children out there with promising future waiting to be adopted. Adoption is not a disease, it shows how big your heart is. Adopted kids dont differ from biological ones. Steve Jobs, the brain behind Apple (FYI: For those who don't know Apple. Apple makes Iphone, Ipad, Ipod etc) was raised by foster parents, till his death he loved his foster parents more than his biological parents. For generations to come , his foster parents would be known as parents to one of the greatest people that ever lived.
    For people who just can't see a purpose for their lives. Pray to Jesus, He would direct you. Take a piece of paper, write out your hobbies, your talents, the things you like to do. Match your talents with the things you like to do and you would see an idea coming up. Also, write out the names of people you love alot, spend time with them and you would see it would be selfish of you to put tears on their faces by not putting a meaning to your life. There is so much to live for, join a community, make friends, get a job, find a companion, talk to people, have kids or even adopt them. Be happy all and put a smile on the faces of everyone you come across. Always remember, Never give up!!!!

SEX

Got this today, i thought i should share............. This pastor is keeping it real..... Sex according to Pastor Khathide (Ugandan): .
    A lot of people don't associate sex with God - they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not holy... !! The bible is explicit when it comes to sex. • Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style. • Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style. • Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!!!!!.

 
Pastor Khathide has counseled women who've complained of the following: • my husband treats me as if I were his brother. • There was one who told him: • I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary. Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections. .
   

How to Enjoy Your Relationship and Be Happy

Ok, this is freestyle. Just my own point of view. Everyone deserves to be happy, our choices are important factors of what brings about the happiness. First thing first is to makesure you choose to be with someone that makes you happy. Be it for the love, companionship or even money (not a good choice though...lol). When you are making a choice, be sure it is someone you can see very early in the morning and still be happy with the choice you made.
    Communication is very important. One party must always be able to tell or predict what the other party is doing at any point in time. Make it a habit to talk about the present and the future. People say couples gossip alot, that is so right. Talk about everything from one gist to another (Only when less busy....lol). Communication builds constant relationship even between siblings. When you chat with your partner you will see the eagerness of you wanting to do it again. For me, we find ourselves chatting about childhood, high school days and having a good laugh about "silly" things we did. it's so much fun talking.
    Pet names are so cute. You could even change each other's pet names from time to time. Say things that would make your partner smile from within. You could let each other know how happy you are to have them and how important he/she is to you. If you havent been doing this then start.
   Disagreements are bound to happened but managing the situation is key. There is no good relationship without "fights" (not hitting eachother). Always say your mind and whatever is hurting you. DO NOT BOTTLE IT UP and do not ignore each other by keeping malice for too long. Let the other party know what he/she is doing wrong.....do this in a civil way... Its fine if you raise your voice, its human nature but be disciplined enough not to let your anger cause any harm to your partner. NEVER BEAT OR PHYSICALLY FIGHT YOUR PARTNER. Try to always resolve your disagreement within 24 hours that it happens.....it is so healthy to do so.
   Go places together....(movies, parks, travels, picnics, road trips etc) all these build memories and this brings about happiness. When you do this, pls stay within your budget....lol. So nobody starts to get edgy or moody once the vacation is over and the bills starts to come in.
   In terms of finances, every party should have one or more legitimate source of income. No one is a burden when each party is financially okay. Yea, the man gets the higher responsibility when it comes to finances but nothing stops the lady from saying -"this christmas trip is on me or the movie ticket on me" (Ladies, shouldnt do it all the time though so the man does not forget his responsibilities). Regardless of the man having the larger responsibilities, ladies do not just spend all your money on accesorizing yourself alone (plainly selfish). Makesure you have some sort of contribution to the relationship/home.
    Enjoy each other's company but learn to make friends and hang out with other people. This does help your relationship alot. But always know when to draw the lines with friends, makesure your partner is on top of the list and your friends can follow. Your partner must know all your friends.
    Lastly, be truthful and honest in your dealings with your partner. Trust is very hard to build so stay away from lies. Be open and transparent. Even when its hard to say the truth, telling a lie has worse repercussions. Stick to the truth.

Enjoy your relationships people.

Semi-nude pictures of Bethel Ministries Pastor's Daughter Funmi Oduyemi

The semi-nude pictures of the Daughter of the founder of  Shepherd of Bethel Ministries, Funmi Oduyemi has been flying around the internet and people giving all sort of horrible comments. ( Sorry guys, the semi nude pictures, i will not put on here).

Why is everyone condenming her? Havent we all heard the saying that -He who has no sin should be the first to cast the stone. What if she took the pictures way before she became born-again. Its unfair for someone to have leaked those pictures on the internet (They were meant to be private).

Yes, she is a pastors daughter but does that make her sinless? I cannot imagine what she and her family would be going through now. Think about it, if it was your sis, you would do your best not to let people see those pictures.

On the other hand, if she is really taking semi nude pictures on an "improvised" stripper pole then it would be a time to stop and turn over a new leaf. The society puts families of clergy on a pedestal as "SINLESS". To save the family name get rid of those pictures and never do that again.

To all those condenming her, most of you have done a thousand times worst things than she has done so turn over a new leaf.

What's your thought?

Enjoy your day peeps.

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Do People Get Married for The Right Reasons

      I started this blog in order to discuss questions that people often ask. I find it awful to see people getting pressured to get married based on the fact that they are growing older. Sometimes you hear things like i had to get married because it was on my bucket list or i have always longed to be in a wedding dress.
      There is even a guy i heard about, he is gay (secretly gay) but got married to an``i have to get married this year kinda babe`` . He got married so that the society would not suspect he is gay and she got married because of the pressure. So tell me, where is this marriage heading? I just cant imagine how she would feel when she finds out, to make situations worst they have a daughter already.
      Marriage is only needed when you have found that one person that makes life alot more meaningful to you. Dont forget it is very important you have spent years with this person getting to know each other better before you both head to the altar.
     Save your self the stress, take your time.....while taking your time search for that one person that would undersatand you and complement you in all things. If your heart thinks you are not ready then you are not. Block your ears to the pressure, take it one step at a time and you will be there in no time.
     Everytime you are taking that step to get married please ask yourself this questions - *Why am i getting married? * Am i getting married for the right reasons? If your answers are not right then its not yet time.


Cheers people.

Heidi Klum heads for Divorce with Huasband Seal

Who would ever think that the lovey dovey International supermodel Heidi Klum would plan to divorce her husband of more than six years, British-Nigerian singer Seal, according to a report in TMZ.
Heidi was recently on Piers Morgan's show on CNN some weeks ago and was talking about how good their relationship is and the lovely bond they share. I am still in shock to hear this.
Klum, 38, will reportedly file divorce papers early next week in Los Angeles County Superior Court, citing "irreconcilable differences. The couple, who originally married in Mexico in May 2005, has three biological children: Henry Günther, 6, Johan Riley, 5, and Lou, 2. Seal, 48, also adopted Heidi’s daughter named Leni from a previous relationship with Italian entrepreneur Flavio Briatore. TMZ speculated that the divorce settlement will involve a huge amount of money. Citing a report from Forbes Magazine, Klum is believed to have earned $20-million last year alone. Seal’s earnings are not known. Klum attended the Golden Globes award ceremonies last Sunday, without Seal in attendance. The British newspaper The Daily Mail indicated that the couple was last seen together on December 27, when Klum tweeted a photo of herself and her husband in Aspen, Colorado. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

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For the Ladies - How to know He is not that into you

Here are some signs to show he is not in love with you

1) He doesnt call, you always do the calling.
2) His phone is locked with a password (I understand the need for privacy but when you are with the one you love there really shouldnt be too much privacy).
3) You dont know his schedule
4) He would rather hang out with the boys than spend anytime with you
5) The only time he tells you he loves you or says nice things to you is during sex or makeout sessions
6) You are not allowed to visit except you tell him in advance
7) He has alot of close female friends that he calls different pet names.
8) He talks down on you and tells you the worst things about yourself
9) He hits you

So much more but for sure this are huge signs. Dont overlook them.....If you are in a relationship with any of these happening in it......Let go of it asap.....Someone out there will be more than willing to show you some love.

Here to Listen

The main reason i created this blog is to help alot of people out there looking for someone to talk to. So many people have become depressed because they never got anyone to listen to them or render them advice when they are in dire need of it.
Almost everyday in the news you hear stories of people committing suicide. Its heart wrenching to hear ladies getting depressed for being dumped.
I am here to listen to all you have being storing up inside. Open up and see how light you would feel. I may not have all the advise for every situation but I would try my best to lift that burden off your shoulder.
Common people lets talk.