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Monday, January 23, 2012
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Hi, Being a virgin is a good thing and if you are not isnt a bad thing. The truth is people do somethings based on their principles, beliefs and most times peer pressure. You shouldn't go and sleep with just anybody so that you wouldnt get mocked, it even gets worst by taking such steps.
My advice would be that you should stand for what you believe. You really dont have to tell people whether you are a virgin or not but if situation warrants it then you say it with pride and let them know you are so happy to be who you are.
Lastly, you said they are your friends right. Give them a serious chat, let them know you are offended anytime they make the issue of your virginity a topic....Let them know it is not as funny as they think it is and it gets you really upset. If they are truly your friends they would take your emotions into consideration. If they dont then make new friends that accept your principles and values.
Hi, I really like your articles sounds very original. I read your write up about how to be happy in a relationship. I have been married for 5 years, i was only happy in the marriage for the 1st year. I have tried my best but my husband is just making it all miserable. He beats me, he says the worst things to me, he keeps late nights and we barely even talk. We have a son but our son sees him like once a month and we live in the same house. The worst part is that he hasnt been home in a month and he is not picking my calls, my family members got to track him down and find out he is living with his "new wife" and she looks like she will be putting to bed soon. Am devastated, dont know what to do, rent is about to expire, my salary is not able to foot the bills. Help!!!!
Hi there, Am sorry to hear all these that you have being going through. The truth be told, your marriage looks like its over. My reason for saying this is because your hubby beats you (If you stay much longer, i pray he doesnt kill you). There is no use staying in an abusive relationship....it's like suicide waiting to happen. I know alot of people would say: stay there for your children or keep praying. True, prayer works alot and God works in miraculous ways. First thing is to talk to Jesus, he would always listen and he would make that burden lighter. The next thing is to start to look for a place within your budget since your rent would expire soon. Some may say your husband is under a spell. If that is true, how long would you have to wait till the spell wears away. I am not telling you to go search for another man, I am saying you should be happy and make your son priority by getting a roof over his head and be able to provide for his basic needs. Take this time to look for ways to advance and develop yourself in your career choice so that you will be financially stable. Get something lucrative into your long term plan (Going back to school, learning a more profitable skill or putting your talents into something lucrative). All these things would keep you occupied. As for your husband, he would soon realise his mistakes (soon does not mean the next month, it could be in months or it could be in years). Look at the brighter side, someone else (the new lady) would get beaten instead of you and she would definitely go through all the humilation you went through. A leopard can't change his spots so if he was beating you then he would beat her. To you, search within yourself and check all the things you did that contributed to the collapse of your relationship. I agree your hubby was bad but if i get a chance to chat with him, he would probably say a few unpleasant things about you. So work on yourself and be a better person. Make your son a happy kid, be a good role model to him. With all these said, A time like this is definitely hard so try to be around loved ones. Talk about other things, don't keep talking about your marriage as this will upset you more. Look for ways to make yourself happy (playing with your son, having leisure time outside work, watch movies with friends). Time will tell if your hubby would change and you getting together again or you move on with someone else or you remain single. I just hope this helps.
I am a 28 year old lady and a virgin. My friends make fun of me alot. I am frustrated and i just want to go sleep with any man cos i dont have a bf.
ReplyDeleteHi,
DeleteBeing a virgin is a good thing and if you are not isnt a bad thing. The truth is people do somethings based on their principles, beliefs and most times peer pressure. You shouldn't go and sleep with just anybody so that you wouldnt get mocked, it even gets worst by taking such steps.
My advice would be that you should stand for what you believe. You really dont have to tell people whether you are a virgin or not but if situation warrants it then you say it with pride and let them know you are so happy to be who you are.
Lastly, you said they are your friends right. Give them a serious chat, let them know you are offended anytime they make the issue of your virginity a topic....Let them know it is not as funny as they think it is and it gets you really upset. If they are truly your friends they would take your emotions into consideration. If they dont then make new friends that accept your principles and values.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI really like your articles sounds very original. I read your write up about how to be happy in a relationship. I have been married for 5 years, i was only happy in the marriage for the 1st year. I have tried my best but my husband is just making it all miserable. He beats me, he says the worst things to me, he keeps late nights and we barely even talk. We have a son but our son sees him like once a month and we live in the same house. The worst part is that he hasnt been home in a month and he is not picking my calls, my family members got to track him down and find out he is living with his "new wife" and she looks like she will be putting to bed soon. Am devastated, dont know what to do, rent is about to expire, my salary is not able to foot the bills. Help!!!!
Hi there,
DeleteAm sorry to hear all these that you have being going through. The truth be told, your marriage looks like its over. My reason for saying this is because your hubby beats you (If you stay much longer, i pray he doesnt kill you). There is no use staying in an abusive relationship....it's like suicide waiting to happen.
I know alot of people would say: stay there for your children or keep praying. True, prayer works alot and God works in miraculous ways. First thing is to talk to Jesus, he would always listen and he would make that burden lighter. The next thing is to start to look for a place within your budget since your rent would expire soon.
Some may say your husband is under a spell. If that is true, how long would you have to wait till the spell wears away. I am not telling you to go search for another man, I am saying you should be happy and make your son priority by getting a roof over his head and be able to provide for his basic needs. Take this time to look for ways to advance and develop yourself in your career choice so that you will be financially stable. Get something lucrative into your long term plan (Going back to school, learning a more profitable skill or putting your talents into something lucrative). All these things would keep you occupied.
As for your husband, he would soon realise his mistakes (soon does not mean the next month, it could be in months or it could be in years). Look at the brighter side, someone else (the new lady) would get beaten instead of you and she would definitely go through all the humilation you went through. A leopard can't change his spots so if he was beating you then he would beat her.
To you, search within yourself and check all the things you did that contributed to the collapse of your relationship. I agree your hubby was bad but if i get a chance to chat with him, he would probably say a few unpleasant things about you. So work on yourself and be a better person. Make your son a happy kid, be a good role model to him.
With all these said, A time like this is definitely hard so try to be around loved ones. Talk about other things, don't keep talking about your marriage as this will upset you more. Look for ways to make yourself happy (playing with your son, having leisure time outside work, watch movies with friends). Time will tell if your hubby would change and you getting together again or you move on with someone else or you remain single. I just hope this helps.