Time to get a job! Let's talk interviews.

Let's talk interviews. There are loads of people going from one interview to another with no luck and I know been out of a job is frustrating and trying to get a new job is more fustrating. So if you are out of a job or you have a job but planning to change careers or jobs then this is for you.

I was once out of a job and it took me over 30 interviews to get a job. It was frustrating, but i never gave up till i got what i wanted. In order for you to be the best candidate for the job you will need to do the following:

For Parents with young children!!! .....lol

This is hilarious. Hmnnn!!! You got to send this kid on vacation before you do it again......lol.

Candid thoughts of youths on cheating...Pathetic!.. Must watch!

I saw these videos today courtesy batttlebox.com and i was in shock. This video is an interview with random people at a university in Nigeria. Both girls and guys believe that it is normal to have more than one partner.

The most amazing part is that some girls agreed they would date married men for money on camera! This is just pathetic. I just hope these girls get to see this video and have a change of heart asap. Click to see videos.

It's time to talk in your relationship

Communication is key in every relationship. If there is no communication then the relationship is half way dead. When i mean communication, am not talking about normal day to day conversations. I am talking about pouring out your heart and having someone to listen even if you have to disagree to agree (not a fight session...lol).


So last week, my husband and i had one of these chats (we hadn't done that in a long time).

Tribute to the 4 Uniport Students Lynched in Aluu

What happened to the phrase "Be your brother's keeper"? Since the incident, I haven't been able to bring myself to watching the video of the killing of these innocent boys. Whoever recorded those videos, whoever was in the crowd when this barbaric act was performed and did not do anything to stop it should know that God is watching and i hope you would ever be able to find sleep after it all.

To those of you who are not aware of this incident, here is a summary: 4 young innocent Uniport boys were mistaken for thieves and accused of stealing laptop and phones. The communiy vigilante stripped them naked, walked them around for 3 hours (video recorded), beat them to stupor with blood all over their bodies and then burnt them to death. SAD. Question is: if they truly stole laptops and phones does the purnishment not outway the crime?! My heart goes out to their families.....Read tribute below.

Here is a tribute by Andrea Chike, very touching......May their souls continue to rest in peace.

Some call u cultists Some call u thieves Initially u were worried about the shame of being stripped naked in full of the view of the crowd... The shame quickly turned into fear 4 ur life... They beat u so badly, u could not mutter a word... Your heart was saying "Please, please wait we're not thieves" but ur mouth would not move...

IF YOU ARE A GUY THEN THIS IS FOR YOU.Ladies enjoy it!!!

My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriag e has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.

Have you done your medical check up lately?

About 3 months ago my gum was swollen, I was advised by husband (he is not a doctor….lol) to gaggle with salt water. I did and I felt the swollen part of my gum go down. In a few days, my gum was swollen again and ofcourse I went back to my salt and water theraphy. This went on for like 2 months.

Nigerians jailed in China

I just saw this documentary and it brought tears down my cheeks. Yes, we all know Nigeria has failed everyone but looking for a way out through fraudulent means is a no no.

Parents, children, wives are made to bear the consequences of your fraudulent actions. Sad!!!

Let us all be vigilant…..always ask the necessary questions, be inquisitive….it would help in the long run.

I hope one or 2 people get to learn from this video.

Spare some minutes to watch documentary.

Single and Searching

A lot of people wonder why people get married when most times the once sweet relationship turns sour. Well, from my own point of view….marriage is only sweet when you are with the right person.Two heads they say is better than one and that is always the truth. Life is boring when alone but you love life when you have people to share it with. Same applies to finding a partner who is there to share the laughs, the smiles, the fun times and also available to cry with you when you really need a shoulder. Click on Read more to continue

A letter to Parents

I got this via email and i can't imagine how many kids go through abuse on a daily basis. I have heard cases of domestic helps molesting their bosses young kids. It is time for every parent to take the age off their shoulders and have a cordial relationship with their children.... these would allow your kids to learn to confide in you.

Click to read the email. I have also included tips to help parents decipher when a child is going through abuse.

LMAO....Must watch!

OMG!!! She just couldn't walk in those heels!


This video will make you laugh and make you feel so sorry for the contestant. But the bottomline is that we must all learn to practice well before an important event. Never assume you would perform well without practicing or studying. Enjoy the video.

Adoption is not a bad idea

Yesterday, i was chatting with a friend who has been waiting on the Lord for the fruit of the womb. She has waited 5 years and she is in a state of loosing hope. I suggested adoption and she didnt buy the idea because of the mockery some societies attach to it.

Abused and Alone Continued.....

If you read my previous post on "Abused and Alone". Here is the continuation of the trial of the case of the Akolade Arowolo who stabbed his wife Titilayo Oyakhire Arowolo to death. So sad....I hope justice is served in this case. May her soul continue to RIP and may the Lord be with her daughter. I hope we all learn one or two things from this case

Housewife- Really!!! Wake up it's the 21st century plsssss

I wrote a post on Men having jobs and money to cater for the home. I got a couple of e-mails saying "How come it is only men you emphasized on?"....."Are you being a feminist?"... Am sorry if my post came across as been one-sided. Well, men have the larger role. Hence, the reason for the emphasis.

So here is for the ladies. I have heard lame excuses from a few ladies about not working....they say house-keeping is a full time job. So being an house wife has become a job....wow!!! Please don't sit on your lazy butt believing this thing called "Occupation = House wife".

I understand it is alot of work to care for the home but that is where multi-tasking comes in. There are loads of working mothers out there making money. Some people even have maids at home and yet still sit home and say "House-wife". Ladies, try your best to bring something to the table. If it is with whatever you earn you are able to pay for those little things such as phone bills, electricity bills, extra-curricular activities for your kids (Such as registration @ the children's club, swimming lessons etc). There are loads of things you can help the "head of the home" with, this little assistance you provide helps to foster a happy relationship in the home.

What money and fame will cause....Part 2

Recent updates: The lady says she is not the lady in the bath tub but she is the lady in this picture. Well, she also agreed that she granted PM News an interview and that she also told PM News that she doesn't mind taking controversial photos. Well, i hope she knows her controversial photos won't make her successful...her brains will (my 2 cents)

 

She is a 300-level student of the Nigerian Institute of Journalism, NIJ, Ogba, Lagos, southwest Nigeria, She went nude to break into the big league of the glamorous Nigerian movie industry, known as Nollywood, saying she wants to be famous and rich.

The 21-year-old student, Ms. Enitan Adeshola Okesanya, vowed to enter the industry with a big bang.

“I think there is something missing in the industry and that’s me. I seriously think so. I have got this talent and passion inside me that I want to show to everybody out there. I want the world to see what I have got inside me, the God-given talent inside me, and I know that the media are actually waiting for that young person that will come and blow everybody away. That’s why I believe that they are looking for me,” she told our correspondent last night as both scanned through her bawdy pictures.

What Money will Cause....

Ex-Governor of Kogi and 13th wife

Couple with family members

Former governor of Kogi state Ibrahim Idris is aged 78 years old and his new wife is aged 27 years old.

The bride’s name was given simply as Ramotu. She hails from Okene.  Her parents reside at Lokoja while Ramotu resides in Abuja with one of her elder sisters. She posses an O’Level school leaving certificate. Prior to her meeting the former governor,  she earned a living through hawking of ‘senegalese’ cloths at the Governor's villa.

When i saw this, i was in a state of shock. Surprised that anyone would ever agree to be the 13th wife to a 78 year old "great-granpa". The awful part of it is that the lady is 51 years younger than he is. So when this lady was born, he was already 51........WOW!!!

A chilling letter from the grave from an abused woman

Hi readers, this is a true life story. So sad and chilling.............

[31/10/76 - 27/02/12] 

My mum is crying. I can see  her from here. She has aged since the last time I saw her.

Why does she look so old and why is she so thin? Can someone console her? Can someone make her stop  crying?

I try to get up but I can’t. I try to reach for her, but I’m stuck where  I am. It is very dark in here, and very cold, so very cold. 

What am I doing here?   Where is everybody?   Where are my children?  I begin to panic, to struggle;  I want to get out of this dark room. 


I can hear Uzo calling. She’s calling my name. Then, I see mum again. And I hear Uzo again. I don’t see my children. Where are my children? I can’t see beyond the walls of this dark and cold room.
 
Uzo calls again. 

She sounds desperate to rouse me from my sleep. I am struggling  to wake but I can’t. I open my eyes and they shut of their own accord. 
I am powerless to keep them from shutting. And I find as soon as I stop struggling,  my sleep becomes sweet repose. Suddenly I don’t want to wake from it just yet. It is peaceful.
I see mum again, and I see Uzo. Uzo keeps calling. She won’t stop calling. She is crying too, just like mum.

Can someone bring Kamsi and Amanda to me? Can someone bring my babies to me? I need to hug them, Kamsi, especially. Is he crying too and calling out for me? 
Does he understand that I  am gone? Kamsi will miss me. 

He is a special child, you know; Kamsiyochukwu - my son and my first child. 

I prayed and longed for his birth. He was the blessing  from above that would seal Kevin’s love for me and give me some footing in his  home and some acceptance from his family. 

 Before Kamsi, I was a nobody in Kevin’s home. I was born the last of nine children, the baby of the family. I was used to love and affection. I was  everyone’s baby. I grew up knowing that everyone had my back, I grew up knowing  the safety and security of being the baby of the home. You may then understand  my shock when I stepped out of my home and into new territory with the man of my  dreams only to find that I was really not as special as I had been made to  believe. I look back to that day when Kevin took me home to introduce me to my new family. The cold and rude shock of the welcome his brother’s wife gave me  set off an alarm in my head.

Would you take an oath? This would change your mind!

Here is a true life story that happened recently. Read and learn from it.

She was a young and pretty babe with the telecommunications outfit,MTEL years back.That was until it folded up and she went into private business.

Meanwhile,it was while there that Teju Salau met and started dating an Edo born young man simply known as Kingsley.

According to reports,the guy came from one of the Local Governments that borders Ondo State.

The guy had an ambition to travel abroad and after much pressure,the lady helped him in facilitating the trip as well as financing same.

Based on their love and the help he received, the guy was alleged to have suggested that they had a blood covenant that they would never be separated and that they would wait for each other and marry each other.

While the lady agreed,her more circumspect mother was said to have been seriously against the idea but Teju,went ahead and had the blood covenant all the same.

Weeks after they had sworn the oath,the guy was granted visa to go to China.

John 3:16

This is so beautiful! John 3:16 A little boy was selling newspapers on the corner, the people were in and out of the cold. The little boy was so cold that he wasn't trying to sell many papers. He walked up to a policeman and said, "Mister, you wouldn't happen to know where a poor boy could find a warm place to sleep tonight would you? You see, I sleep in a box up around the corner there and down the alley and it's awful cold in there for tonight. Sure would be nice to have a warm place to stay." The policeman looked down at the little boy and said, "You go down the street to that big white house and you knock on the door. When they come out the door you just say John 3:16, and they will let you in." So he did. He walked up the steps and knocked on the door, and a lady answered. He looked up and said, "John 3:16." The lady said, "Come on in, Son." She took him in and she sat him down in a split bottom rocker in front of a great big old fireplace, and she went off. The boy sat there for a while and thought to himself: John 3:16...I don't understand it, but it sure makes a cold boy warm. " He said, "Well, just a little. I haven't eaten in a couple of days, and I guess I could stand a little bit of food," The lady took him in the kitchen and sat him down to a table full of wonderful food. He ate and ate until he couldn't eat any more. Then he thought to himself: John 3:16...Boy, I sure don't understand it but it sure makes a hungry boy full. She took him upstairs to a bathroom to a huge bathtub filled with warm water, and he sat there and soaked for a while. As he soaked, he thought to himself: John 3:16... I sure don't understand it, but it sure makes a dirty boy clean. You know, I've not had a bath, a real bath, in my whole life. The only bath I ever had was when I stood in front of that big old fire hydrant as they flushed it out. The lady came in and got him. She took him to a room, tucked him into a big old feather bed, pulled the covers up around his neck, kissed him goodnight and turned out the lights. As he lay in the darkness and looked out the window at the snow coming down on that cold night, he thought to himself: John 3:16...I don't understand it but it sure makes a tired boy rested.

He is broke, should i marry him?

Tade is a young and a hard working lady with a stable job. She is turning 29 in April and planning to get married in December 2012. She met her husband-to-be (David) a year ago. David doesn't have a job and a very good dreamer (lol). He fantasizes a lot about million-dollar contracts and loves to live a fake life.

He talks big and tries to give a false impression of his "pocket" which unfortunately is not working for him because people think he has more than enough (So people don't offer him jobs). According to Tade, David has only been able to secure one contract worth $10,000 ever since she met him.

To cut the long story short David does not really have a steady source of income and he feels too big to search for a job. Tade and David's love life is fantastic and they really want to move things to the next level. Here is where the gist is, Tade is scared of the future with David because of his financial situation.

Laugh out Loud

Dem say boko haram don poison beans and i buy half bag 4 house.

From d 1 wey i cook, i giv my dog 'Bingo' make e 1st test am, 45mins lata bingo stil dey waka, den i eat.

Afta i eat finish, my gateman run come tel me say bingo don die, i run enta house dey turn gallon of oil 4 belle.

As i come out my gateman dey tell me say d driver wey kill bingo wan come beg me.

Abeg If na u, wetin u go do the gateman? LOL!!!

Abused and Alone!!!

A large number of women are continually abused in their relationships. I have watched and followed alot of stories through the media showing how women are continuously been abused. Ranging from verbal abuse to physical abuse all the way to murder.

If you are lucky enough not to be married to that man yet but he has been abusing you with words or punches. Here is the time to take a walk. Staying in that relationship all in the name of "wanting to get married" would not give you a gold medal. To the married ones, who go through abuse on a daily basis.....having to hear words that make you feel worthless or sad, been hit or even been forced to bed are serious abuse. Save your life before you save that dying marriage. As long as there is life there is hope. Don't wait to be killed.....loads of loved ones still want you alive.

You Need some sort of Advise? Do it here.

    Hi people,
    There are so many of us who have a lot bottled up inside. We can't share it with people because we all know how people can be..... they hear it and then turn you to an object of ridicule.
    Here is the place to do it. Just click on comment and do it annonymously and am sure if i don't have a suggestion then someone else might. A problem shared is a problem half solved. You feel lighter when you don't bottle it up inside.
  

Why you shouldn't be a nag in your relationship

    Ok, I got this today and am sharing with beautiful people like you. Bear in mind, I am not perfect too.....I learn from all these stories as well.
    What is this life. .....
    Just Read along.......
    When I was a kid, my Mum liked to make food for dinner every now & then. I remember one night in particular when she made dinner after a long, hard day at work.
    On that evening so long ago, my Mum placed a plate of stew and extremely burnt yam in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet, all my dad did was reach for his yam, smiled at my Mum and asked me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my Mum apologise to my dad for burning the yam.

Just for Laughs!!!

Here is a letter from a desperate Job seeker :D
    No 55. Igitiwopayin st, Off Edaolaropin lane Ifetedo,Miosetofe Nigeria
    Τ̲̅ђε̲ G.manager.Twale...  ‎ ( :D )  / \ ' ‎. BABA NIYEN
    Dear Sir,
   
    APPLICATION FOR EMPLOYMENT
   
    I refer to the recent death of the Technical Manager at your company and hereby apply for the replacement of the dead manager :(
    It's sad but as the elders will say... "if one person's life did not spoil, another person's life cannot repair" #:-s
    Each time I apply for employment, I get a reply that there is no vacancy but in this case ,I have caught you red handed and you have no excuse because I even attended the funeral :| to be sure that he is truly dead before applying. /:)
    Attached is d poster of his obituary... Original not photocopy ooo :|
    Yours,
    Sule O. Igitakoko
    Job seeker

What Sharing truly means in a relationship!!!

I got this today and i thought i should share.
    THE POOR MAN AND HIS WIFE►►►
    A very poor man lived with his wife. One day, his wife, who had a very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed. The man felt very sorry and said no. He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken. She did not insist on her request.
    The man went to work and passed ...by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife. He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to her wife. He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut.
    She had sold her hairand was holding a new watchband. Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love.
    MORAL: To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love, that is EVERYTHING. Never take love for granted. Reciprocate good gestures and cherish your partner at all times. .
    Another story about a Couple......... .
    A man who has no job got married to a banker, despite his fears & advices that it's not good to marry without a job. .
    Every month the girl will give the guy her full salary N135k after removing her N15k tithe. The guy will give the wife N20k for personal up keep & †?? guy determines what happens to thremaining money, this thing happened for 3 good years. There was happiness in the family & the lady never refused to do her primary home duty for that 3years despite wrong advice from friends:"you can't pay the bills & still be doing all the work". .
    There was a particular month d guy used about N70k to travel from state to state for different interviews. The man finally got a job with a gud firm in Port-Harcourt his salary was N600k monthly for a start. He bought his first car (a brand new) for N4.5m, he gave d wife d car key. So he took public transport to work for about 2years b4 he bought the second car for N6 million. After he bought d second car he took d keys of the 1st car & gave d wife the key of the second car. They were very very happy.They finally moved into their personal house after some few years. .
    One day, d wife was looking 4 some documents she now saw a file codedly hidden, when she opened d file she saw her wedding picture when she was very slim in d first page of d file. She finally saw dat d document to d purchase of d land & every other things in d house contains her name only. At d last page was d guy's wedding picture nd a note written by d husband, '' MY WIFE IS ALL I HAVE GOT,NOT EVEN THIS HOUSE WORTH N24M AT THE TIME I BUILT IT''. .
    This couple got married in 1998. Last Sunday was their wedding anniversary with two children a boy & a girl. True LOVE still exists up till this day. Are you sure, the love you have for Him/Her can be compared to this one you just read. No matter what, remember you choose each other so share...it doesn't matter who puts food on the table. There is Love in sharing! Peace!!! DONT 4GET TO SHARE !!!!!! .
    ************************************************************************************************************** After reading this.... i thought to myself, would it work out for everyone like it did in the story? My answer is NO!!!!..... Be wise in sharing, some men/ women have first class degrees in being selfish.....They take when you share and when the light shines @ the end of the tunnel for them you will be in the dark of what he/she has. When you share be sure to know what the capabilities of your partner is and be sure he/she isn't just sitting on his/her ass waiting till ur salary comes. Only one income is not enough for an household to share. It's very good to share but be wise#

Whitney Houston dead @ 48

LOS ANGELES, Calif. - Whitney Houston, who ruled as pop music's queen until her majestic voice and regal image were ravaged by drug use, erratic behaviour and a tumultuous marriage to singer Bobby Brown, has died. She was 48. Legendary pop singer Whitney Houston died at a Beverly Hills, California, hotel at age 48, officials said Saturday night. The entertainer was pronounced dead at 3:55 p.m. (6:55 p.m. ET) at the Beverly Hilton Hotel despite resuscitation efforts, a police spokesman said Beverly Hills Police Lt. Mark Rosen said there were "no obvious signs of criminal intent" and that the cause of her death is being investigated. Houston died on the eve of the 54th annual Grammy Awards in Los Angeles. According to her official website, Houston, who struggled with addiction problems over the years, sold more than 170 million albums, singles and videos over her career. Houston was set to appear in this year's "Sparkle," a remake of the 1976 hit, which was loosely based on the story of The Supremes. It was her first movie role since 1996's "The Preacher's Wife." News of her death elicited a flood of reaction on social media, from fans and fellow celebrities alike. Houston's publicist, Kristen Foster, said Saturday that the singer had died, but the cause and the location of her death were unknown. News of Houston's death came on the eve of music's biggest night — the Grammy Awards. It's a showcase where she once reigned, and her death was sure to case a heavy pall on Sunday's ceremony. Houston's longtime mentor Clive Davis was to hold his annual concert and dinner Saturday; it was unclear if it was going to go forward. At her peak, Houston the golden girl of the music industry. From the middle 1980s to the late 1990s, she was one of the world's bestselling artists. She wowed audiences with effortless, powerful, and peerless vocals that were rooted in the black church but made palatable to the masses with a pop sheen. Her success carried her beyond music to movies, where she starred in hits like "The Bodyguard" and "Waiting to Exhale." She had the he perfect voice, and the perfect image: a gorgeous singer who had sex appeal but was never overtly sexual, who maintained perfect poise. She influenced a generation of younger singers, from Christina Aguilera to Mariah Carey, who when she first came out sounded so much like Houston that many thought it was Houston. But by the end of her career, Houston became a stunning cautionary tale of the toll of drug use. Her album sales plummeted and the hits stopped coming; her once serene image was shattered by a wild demeanour and bizarre public appearances. She confessed to abusing cocaine, marijuana and pills, and her once pristine voice became raspy and hoarse, unable to hit the high notes as she had during her prime. "The biggest devil is me. I'm either my best friend or my worst enemy," Houston told ABC's Diane Sawyer in an infamous 2002 interview with then-husband Brown by her side. It was a tragic fall for a superstar who was one of the top-selling artists in pop music history, with more than 55 million records sold in the United States alone. May she rest in peace. So sad!

Valentine's day is around the corner

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    For the guys!!! Try your best to impress that girl you have been chatting up. Not saying she will fall for you because of the gift but am sure she would appreciate the thoughtfulness. Don't be the guy that disappears a few days to Valentine and resurfaces after with a "cock and bull" story. Ladies are meant to be appreciated. Am not trying to sound like a Feminist.... just my point of view. Ladies, be thoughtful...don't just be a receiver....show how much you care with gifts on that day. .
    Well, I started dating my husband on valentine's day back in 2003. Not because of the gift eventhough i was excited about it. The day just provided a lovely atmosphere to start a relationship. It did work out at the end. We dated for 7 years and got married in the 7th year. .
    So this Valentine's day be thoughtful, you never know what good awaits you. Here are some Gift Ideas: .
    For Ladies - A voucher to the spa - Lingeries ( Bra, pants, thongs etc) - Cake - Chocolate - Roses - Night wear, house coat, bath robe - Jewelry - Perfume - Box of chocolate - A date @ a nice restaurant .
    If you are rich enough - Ipad - Cell phone - Camera .
    For Men - Cologne - Boxers - Nice Shirts - Nice polo shirts - PJ - Wrist watch - Sandals .
    Feel free to add to the list. .
    Whatever you give, enjoy the day and show that special person how much you love them. .
    Cheers.

Bursted!!! Nigerian perverted nurse caught sexually abusing his patients

A Nigerian nursing assistant based in the United States, Folajuwani Ajani has been arrested for fondling a patient and also videotaping it. Ajayi appeared at an indianapolis court on Tuesday where he pleaded not guilty to the charges. According to charges brought against Ajayi, while working at Wishard Hospital, he allegely removed the clothing of an unconscious female patient and fondled her genital area. This, he also videotaped. But what gave him away was that he mistakenly videotaped his ID card and his title. Naijapals gathered that upon arrest, police said his phone had 400,000 pictures and 17 videos.Prosecutors says they are looking for means to get the other women on his phone and interview them on whether or not they have also been abused by the assitant nurse. Ajayi’s case has once again raised the issue of medical personnel who used their position to violate female patients by sexually abusing them. But seriously, how bad can it get.... 400,000 videos of women who were not aware of the act. This guy will definitely sexually abuse dead people in the morgue. Sad he traded his perversion for his career and some jail time. Sick dude!!!

Wow!!! Best Marriage Proposal.... Must watch

lt's all about Money!!! Who is to be blamed?

Here is the scenario .
    There is a guy named Dave Cole, born into wealth and a very good spender. A spoilt brat i would call him; he spends the money without having to work for it. He has all the good things of life at the tip of his fingers and a notorious womaniser. He is the C.E.O of his father's million dollar company but his workers have never seen him at work. He spends alot on his girls, from buying them cars to all expense paid trip to a vacation destination to buying them all the designer brands you can name. .
    Time flies by and now Dave is 40. His Parents, want him to start a family. He thinks about it but he is not sure which of his various ladies he should settle down with. If he had organised a contest to find a wife, he would get alot of contestant (Regardless of the shameful reason for the contest). He meets a new lady by the name Tonia through one of his friends and within a twinkle of an eye (2 weeks into meeting her) he showers her with money, gifts, car, vacation and then he proposes to her (Be my wife). A little background on Tonia, she is 28 years old from a middle class family. A graduate and a Customer Service reps at one of the banks. To her friends, she hit a pot of gold when she met Dave. when her friends heard about the proposal they went GREEN with envy (in a good way) because half of them were desperately looking for marriage. .
    Tonia started preparing for their marriage and one month after meeting Dave, they had the "Talk of the town" wedding. The wedding was attended by the "creme-de-la-creme" of the society. The bill for the wedding was in millions. I need not tell you how green Tonia's friends were but you sure can imagine how everyone hoped and prayed for the same wedding for themselves. Dave and Tonia Cole's new home is in a highbrow estate "for the rich", it is a mansion with stewards, maids, chauffeurs...(that was just the life). She didn't go back to her customer service job....just not worth it! She got some money from him and started a high class spa/ make-over place. All the society ladies flooded the place regardless of the exhorbitant charges. Her spa was the place to be. .
    Dave hasn't changed, he was back on the streets again womanising. He would even visit his wives spa and on his way out would find a lady to take to a hotel for a quickie. These ladies are aware he is married but who cares....they need the prestige that comes with dating him. Here comes the hottest of them all, she is a beauty queen by the name Dammy. All the men wanted to date her, Dave was happier than he was on his weding day when Dammy agreed to be his mistress. There relationship became the gossip of every tabloid. It became an open secret. Tonia hears about it and confronts Dave. At this time, she is 5 months pregnant. Dave did not accept nor deny the allegations but that isn't stopping him from spending time with Dammy. Dave continues to provide for Tonia but emotionally there is no connection. .
    Dammy loves the attention the open secret brings to her and she loves the fact that she thinks she is in love with Dave. Yea..Yea...in love with all Dave has to offer. Dave bought her a house, a new SUV, various first-class trips to destinations of choice and ofcourse have her bank account credited every week. Dave still has other ladies he calls in for a quickee but Dammy is the main mistress. .
    Tonia's friends start to call to find out if she has been reading the magazines. Tonia covers up and tells whoever cares to listen that Dave is been blackmailed. Tonia is living a loveless life and she goes through a daily humilation at her spa when ladies start to gossip about her openly. She beacame the shadow of herself and she stopped going to her spa. A beautiful afternoon, she was in labour....she called Dave. Dave gave a good hiss and asked her to tell the chaffeur to take her to the hospital. She puts to bed to a bouncing baby girl, with her mum by her side. Meanwhile, Dave and Dammy flew to Dubai that night to have a good vacation. Tonia is sad....she couldn't even reach her husband on the phone to tell him she had put to bed. .
    Dave was incommunicado so there was no ceremony for the new born. Dave gets back in 2 weeks....pops into baby's room and leaves a cheques for Tonia to use for her expenses. Now, its obvious Tonia is married to the money. She is going through so much hurts inside and the only thing that makes her smile is her Cheques. She opens up to one of her friends Toyo, Toyo asked her to steal Dammy's number from Dave's phone. Tonia and Toyo calls Dammy (Dave's mistress) cursing and threatening.... Dammy tells Tonia she would soon send her out of the house so she can move in. Dammy is having a good laugh, she calls Dave and tells Dave all that happened. Dave went home and gave Tonia the beating of her life....she lost a tooth. Tonia is miserable, She knows it's time to sort a divorce but she couldn't because she wouldn't be able to maintain her new life-style (one she acquired by becoming Mrs. Cole). Her Spa wasn't bringing in as much money because she was no longer @ d top (The ladies were there for social climbing). Now she has a daughter, it is a lot of money to raise a child. She thought of getting another man but she has a child and it would be a case of luck to find a man rich enough to cater for her needs, single enough to help her start her life over and opened enough to accept her with her child. She is still in the mansion getting the cheques but no companionship. She has had several visits to the hospital because she developed a high blood pressure at age 31. Dave.
    still sleeps with Dammy and Dammy is having a good life. She runs a beauty pageant and she has all the big sponsors because she sleeps with them. Her heart belongs to no one. She loves the life she is living and has alot of money to show for it. Although nobody knows how many times she has been treated for STDs but rumour has it that she is a regular @ a popular doctor's office for treatment. STD or no STD, a lot of men are still on the queue for her. Dave is still a spoilt brat with little or no attachment to his daughter or "wife". He is okay with having them in the house atleast that gives his parent the false hope of him being a family man. Still as randy as ever and has no regrets for it. Who is to be blamed for this unfortunate scenario? Is it Dave, Dave's parents, Tonia, Tonia's parents or Dammy?

Don't give up!

I love the saying: "There is always a light @ the end of the tunnel".  This is for those who think there isn't any more hope. This is the time to change your direction of thoughts, Be hopeful.
Let me start with those who think their world has come to an end just because their partner called it quit or their partner is cheating. See it as a relationship that was never meant to be, see it as part of building up experience. When you go for a job interview, they are more interested in your experience than your academic background because your past experience is much more valuable in getting the job done in a timely manner. The same goes for relationships that didnt work out, your previous experience would help you make a better choice.
    

It is time to let go off that old relationship that broke your heart, learn to forgive and move on. I know alot of people would say it is easier said than done. The moment you forgive, you feel better and it opens you up for better opportunities. Dont waste your time thinking and dwelling in the past, dont be bitter towards anyone that comes your way, take a giant step in moving on. I am not saying get a relationship ASAP, it would be better for you to take your time (not like decades....lol) have fun, mingle, make yourself happy, go to the movies, hang out with friends, go to lunch with a colleague, plan a road trip with family or friends.....just make yourself happy so you dont get weighed down with the hurts. Everyone loves companionship but it is only sweet when it is with the right person. Don't ever give up because you are closer than you think.
    For those who are having financial difficulties, do not give up. Loads of people go through rough times. Either you lost your job or you are just not able to meet up with your day-to-day expenses, this isnt the time to give up this is the time to be stronger and see the better opportunities that are available. Keep sending out your resume, do not give up even if you don't get a call after sending out hundred resumes. I have had a time in my life when i went for 30 different interviews and still didn't get 1 single offer. Keep searching and when you eventually get an interview makesure you are well prepared for it (Read about interviews, most frequetly asked interview questions, interviews dos and donts etc). Stay positive and you would soon realise that you are closer than you think. For the self-employed, Knowledge is power so keep reading, there are various internet sites and blogs that have alot of ideas on how to boost your business so take advantage of it and put the knowledge you get into use.
    For the people who haven't been blessed with a child yet(Note the word "yet", its never too late to have kids). If you are rich enough to try IVF, go ahead because it has worked for alot of people. You can also adopt, there are so many beautiful children out there with promising future waiting to be adopted. Adoption is not a disease, it shows how big your heart is. Adopted kids dont differ from biological ones. Steve Jobs, the brain behind Apple (FYI: For those who don't know Apple. Apple makes Iphone, Ipad, Ipod etc) was raised by foster parents, till his death he loved his foster parents more than his biological parents. For generations to come , his foster parents would be known as parents to one of the greatest people that ever lived.
    For people who just can't see a purpose for their lives. Pray to Jesus, He would direct you. Take a piece of paper, write out your hobbies, your talents, the things you like to do. Match your talents with the things you like to do and you would see an idea coming up. Also, write out the names of people you love alot, spend time with them and you would see it would be selfish of you to put tears on their faces by not putting a meaning to your life. There is so much to live for, join a community, make friends, get a job, find a companion, talk to people, have kids or even adopt them. Be happy all and put a smile on the faces of everyone you come across. Always remember, Never give up!!!!

SEX

Got this today, i thought i should share............. This pastor is keeping it real..... Sex according to Pastor Khathide (Ugandan): .
    A lot of people don't associate sex with God - they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not holy... !! The bible is explicit when it comes to sex. • Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style. • Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style. • Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!!!!!.

 
Pastor Khathide has counseled women who've complained of the following: • my husband treats me as if I were his brother. • There was one who told him: • I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary. Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections. .
   

How to Enjoy Your Relationship and Be Happy

Ok, this is freestyle. Just my own point of view. Everyone deserves to be happy, our choices are important factors of what brings about the happiness. First thing first is to makesure you choose to be with someone that makes you happy. Be it for the love, companionship or even money (not a good choice though...lol). When you are making a choice, be sure it is someone you can see very early in the morning and still be happy with the choice you made.
    Communication is very important. One party must always be able to tell or predict what the other party is doing at any point in time. Make it a habit to talk about the present and the future. People say couples gossip alot, that is so right. Talk about everything from one gist to another (Only when less busy....lol). Communication builds constant relationship even between siblings. When you chat with your partner you will see the eagerness of you wanting to do it again. For me, we find ourselves chatting about childhood, high school days and having a good laugh about "silly" things we did. it's so much fun talking.
    Pet names are so cute. You could even change each other's pet names from time to time. Say things that would make your partner smile from within. You could let each other know how happy you are to have them and how important he/she is to you. If you havent been doing this then start.
   Disagreements are bound to happened but managing the situation is key. There is no good relationship without "fights" (not hitting eachother). Always say your mind and whatever is hurting you. DO NOT BOTTLE IT UP and do not ignore each other by keeping malice for too long. Let the other party know what he/she is doing wrong.....do this in a civil way... Its fine if you raise your voice, its human nature but be disciplined enough not to let your anger cause any harm to your partner. NEVER BEAT OR PHYSICALLY FIGHT YOUR PARTNER. Try to always resolve your disagreement within 24 hours that it happens.....it is so healthy to do so.
   Go places together....(movies, parks, travels, picnics, road trips etc) all these build memories and this brings about happiness. When you do this, pls stay within your budget....lol. So nobody starts to get edgy or moody once the vacation is over and the bills starts to come in.
   In terms of finances, every party should have one or more legitimate source of income. No one is a burden when each party is financially okay. Yea, the man gets the higher responsibility when it comes to finances but nothing stops the lady from saying -"this christmas trip is on me or the movie ticket on me" (Ladies, shouldnt do it all the time though so the man does not forget his responsibilities). Regardless of the man having the larger responsibilities, ladies do not just spend all your money on accesorizing yourself alone (plainly selfish). Makesure you have some sort of contribution to the relationship/home.
    Enjoy each other's company but learn to make friends and hang out with other people. This does help your relationship alot. But always know when to draw the lines with friends, makesure your partner is on top of the list and your friends can follow. Your partner must know all your friends.
    Lastly, be truthful and honest in your dealings with your partner. Trust is very hard to build so stay away from lies. Be open and transparent. Even when its hard to say the truth, telling a lie has worse repercussions. Stick to the truth.

Enjoy your relationships people.

Semi-nude pictures of Bethel Ministries Pastor's Daughter Funmi Oduyemi

The semi-nude pictures of the Daughter of the founder of  Shepherd of Bethel Ministries, Funmi Oduyemi has been flying around the internet and people giving all sort of horrible comments. ( Sorry guys, the semi nude pictures, i will not put on here).

Why is everyone condenming her? Havent we all heard the saying that -He who has no sin should be the first to cast the stone. What if she took the pictures way before she became born-again. Its unfair for someone to have leaked those pictures on the internet (They were meant to be private).

Yes, she is a pastors daughter but does that make her sinless? I cannot imagine what she and her family would be going through now. Think about it, if it was your sis, you would do your best not to let people see those pictures.

On the other hand, if she is really taking semi nude pictures on an "improvised" stripper pole then it would be a time to stop and turn over a new leaf. The society puts families of clergy on a pedestal as "SINLESS". To save the family name get rid of those pictures and never do that again.

To all those condenming her, most of you have done a thousand times worst things than she has done so turn over a new leaf.

What's your thought?

Enjoy your day peeps.

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Do People Get Married for The Right Reasons

      I started this blog in order to discuss questions that people often ask. I find it awful to see people getting pressured to get married based on the fact that they are growing older. Sometimes you hear things like i had to get married because it was on my bucket list or i have always longed to be in a wedding dress.
      There is even a guy i heard about, he is gay (secretly gay) but got married to an``i have to get married this year kinda babe`` . He got married so that the society would not suspect he is gay and she got married because of the pressure. So tell me, where is this marriage heading? I just cant imagine how she would feel when she finds out, to make situations worst they have a daughter already.
      Marriage is only needed when you have found that one person that makes life alot more meaningful to you. Dont forget it is very important you have spent years with this person getting to know each other better before you both head to the altar.
     Save your self the stress, take your time.....while taking your time search for that one person that would undersatand you and complement you in all things. If your heart thinks you are not ready then you are not. Block your ears to the pressure, take it one step at a time and you will be there in no time.
     Everytime you are taking that step to get married please ask yourself this questions - *Why am i getting married? * Am i getting married for the right reasons? If your answers are not right then its not yet time.


Cheers people.

Heidi Klum heads for Divorce with Huasband Seal

Who would ever think that the lovey dovey International supermodel Heidi Klum would plan to divorce her husband of more than six years, British-Nigerian singer Seal, according to a report in TMZ.
Heidi was recently on Piers Morgan's show on CNN some weeks ago and was talking about how good their relationship is and the lovely bond they share. I am still in shock to hear this.
Klum, 38, will reportedly file divorce papers early next week in Los Angeles County Superior Court, citing "irreconcilable differences. The couple, who originally married in Mexico in May 2005, has three biological children: Henry Günther, 6, Johan Riley, 5, and Lou, 2. Seal, 48, also adopted Heidi’s daughter named Leni from a previous relationship with Italian entrepreneur Flavio Briatore. TMZ speculated that the divorce settlement will involve a huge amount of money. Citing a report from Forbes Magazine, Klum is believed to have earned $20-million last year alone. Seal’s earnings are not known. Klum attended the Golden Globes award ceremonies last Sunday, without Seal in attendance. The British newspaper The Daily Mail indicated that the couple was last seen together on December 27, when Klum tweeted a photo of herself and her husband in Aspen, Colorado. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

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For the Ladies - How to know He is not that into you

Here are some signs to show he is not in love with you

1) He doesnt call, you always do the calling.
2) His phone is locked with a password (I understand the need for privacy but when you are with the one you love there really shouldnt be too much privacy).
3) You dont know his schedule
4) He would rather hang out with the boys than spend anytime with you
5) The only time he tells you he loves you or says nice things to you is during sex or makeout sessions
6) You are not allowed to visit except you tell him in advance
7) He has alot of close female friends that he calls different pet names.
8) He talks down on you and tells you the worst things about yourself
9) He hits you

So much more but for sure this are huge signs. Dont overlook them.....If you are in a relationship with any of these happening in it......Let go of it asap.....Someone out there will be more than willing to show you some love.

Here to Listen

The main reason i created this blog is to help alot of people out there looking for someone to talk to. So many people have become depressed because they never got anyone to listen to them or render them advice when they are in dire need of it.
Almost everyday in the news you hear stories of people committing suicide. Its heart wrenching to hear ladies getting depressed for being dumped.
I am here to listen to all you have being storing up inside. Open up and see how light you would feel. I may not have all the advise for every situation but I would try my best to lift that burden off your shoulder.
Common people lets talk.