He is broke, should i marry him?

Tade is a young and a hard working lady with a stable job. She is turning 29 in April and planning to get married in December 2012. She met her husband-to-be (David) a year ago. David doesn't have a job and a very good dreamer (lol). He fantasizes a lot about million-dollar contracts and loves to live a fake life.

He talks big and tries to give a false impression of his "pocket" which unfortunately is not working for him because people think he has more than enough (So people don't offer him jobs). According to Tade, David has only been able to secure one contract worth $10,000 ever since she met him.

To cut the long story short David does not really have a steady source of income and he feels too big to search for a job. Tade and David's love life is fantastic and they really want to move things to the next level. Here is where the gist is, Tade is scared of the future with David because of his financial situation.


From my point of view, money is a very important factor in any marriage. The bible says the husband is the head of the home. The "head of the home" must have a pocket that shows he is the head. I am not saying, he should have millions of dollars in his account but i am saying the head must have a steady source of income. The bible also says in 1Timothy 5:8 - "But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel."
Do not marry someone that is jobless. Same applies to men, do not marry a jobless woman! (Every person must make an income however little). The bible says in 2 Thess 3:10 "the hand that does not labour must not eat". Money helps the marriage a happy one, without money there will be unrest in the home. I have heard of marriages where "serious" fights happened over $10.

My advise to Tade is; to tell David to go get a job first before they can move anywhere around the altar. Once you get married, children start to come in (Big time investments). How do you want to pay your rents, kids school fees, groceries, holidays, phone bills, day-to-day maintenance, clothing etc without the husband being able to drop 70% of the money for all these things? The moment the wife starts to do 100% of the "Heads" responsibilities then the marriage is heading the wrong way.

All the single people be sure you know his pocket before he starts talking marriage. For all the people who are already married to "jobless" people, it's never too late to change the situation. Start by motivating them to getting a source of income. Not everyone needs to work in an office but there are various things people can do (legally) to make money. Get your talents to work, enrol in a course, learn on a job. Just get on your feet and start now!